Do you think that you’re too shy

Smile – Everyone looks more attractive when they smile. Not that big cheesy smile that looks and feels fake. Smile that contented smile that comes across your face when you think of happy thoughts or something pleasant. If you have difficulty pulling it off try thinking of walking on the beach or how you feel when you eat a really tasty piece of cheesecake or any one of your other favorite desserts.

If you want to go with a little more flirty you can try a bit of a wry smile. This is the type of smile that you might use on a guy that says that you want to do all sorts of naughty things to him. It is a knowing smile with a seductive air to it. Either way, smiling at a guy should be the basis of all flirting and it says without a word that you find him attractive and that you like him. A smile means the same thing in every language worldwide so you don’t even have to worry if you don’t speak his language.

What to Say – If you are nervous about what to say the honest to goodness truth is that what you say means very little when you are flirting with a guy. Studies have shown that only a very small percentage of communication when you are flirting with a guy is verbal. Approximately 90 percent of all communication is non verbal and is done with your body.

Of course, you still have to say something, right? Studies have also shown that a simple hello works well for beginners along with open ended questions that are non threatening. Something as simple and random as “what is your favorite kind of pizza” works just as well at breaking the ice as any cool line that you might read in any popular women’s magazine.

The Eyes – Definitely look him in the eye when you are talking to him but be careful not to stare. Look him in the eye, hold for a bit and then glance down… and then look him in the eye again. Looking away can send a message of disinterest or preoccupation, such as looking for another guy or one of your girlfriends. Your focus should be on him and by looking away you can make him feel that you have already lost interest in him. By looking down you send a flirty message that says that you are into him without saying a word.

Keeping constant eye contact can be effective in intimate conversations and can create smoldering passion when you are discussing something really racy but in the beginning of a relationship it can just come off creepy. So save the intense eye contact for later.

Just remember that effective flirting is mostly what you do with your body. It is nonverbal cues that tell a story to a guy and let him know that you are interested him. Most guys are pretty oblivious so don’t be shy or worry that you’re coming on too strong. Chances are that unless you do come on a little strong he is never going to get the message. So once you smile that beautiful smile and initiate a conversation with some good eye contact it is time to turn up the heat. Let him know that he’s being flirted with instead of guessing whether you might have been sending him a message.

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Some of you might have already been sexting without even knowing that it actually had a name. Flirty little text messages sent to your boyfriend or husband were the perfect little reminder of what he had waiting for him at the end of the day. Maybe things would get a little more heated late at night if you were apart. And, of course, a few short, well worded text message could easily keep that guy you were interested in up all night if you were really good.

Either way, sexting has probably been going on for as long as there has been text messaging. SMS messaging, as it is formally called, is the perfect way to flirt with your boyfriend, husband or guy you’re interested in and drive him wild with passion for you.

Like any form of flirting though, less is more. No different than any other form of seduction or flirting, the woman who has the ability to leave a little bit to the imagination will always get a better response from her man than the one that just gets down and dirty right away. Subtle innuendos that lead him on with perhaps a spicy little tidbit thrown in when he’s least expecting it will get him right where you want him.

No different than showing just a little bit of leg or cleavage, a well worded text message can seduce a man as well as a pushup bra and a miniskirt any day. It’s all about teasing. It’s all about building up the emotional tension… and then shocking him, setting that hook and making him yours.

With the proper setup, buildup of tension and follow through you can pretty much guarantee that he isn’t going to be thinking of much more other than you for quite a while. Of course, each technique and series of message has to match the depth of your relationship and your desired outcome.

For instance, let’s say you have been in a relationship for a while. Maybe you’re married or living together. Things have gotten a little “routine” and you’re hoping to spice up your love life. You have heard about this “sexting” thing so you want to give it a try. This one is sure to not only make him come running home but chances are he will save this text message for years to come.

Wait until he is at work or, even better, in a meeting. Send him a text message telling him that you were just thinking about something. Once he responds back tell him that he has to promise not to think poorly of you. When he agrees tell him that you have a question for him. When he asks what ask him if he would be shocked if you told him that you wanted to taste him right now.

Now run outside, get the kids bikes out of the driveway and unlock the door because there’s a pretty good chance that he is going to leave work and come to wherever you are.

You see, it’s not always about graphic words and descriptions of actions that will move a man to distraction. It’s the gentle nuances of true seduction that will drive a man wild. It’s the hint of sexuality and the subtle flirty air that will make him yours.

With a little planning and some forethought you can turn your cell phone into a homing beacon for your man. A couple well thought out text messages and a desire to become the only woman he thinks about and you can move your man from several time zones away with the power of sexting.

To learn more about seduction and how to flirt we recommend Mimi Tanner’s “How To Flirt With Men“. To learn how to seduce him without a word and how to keep him interested for as long as you like go to the How To Flirt With Men Homepage.

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Seriously women…if you want to learn what to say to a man to absolutely drive him crazy with desire this is where it’s at! Just try one or two of the samples that Denise gives for you on her homepage….that’s right…just go to “The Ultimate Guide to Talking Dirty” Homepage and pick out one of the lines that she gives you…go whisper it in your man’s ear a little seductively and see what happens…and see if you don’t want to learn more.

Guys might want to pick it up for your ladies although I don’t know how you’ll get her to read it. I definitely think that it should be a part of every woman’s reading list if they really want to know how to seduce a guy though. I don’t even think you’d have to actually say these things…a text message…email or instant message in the middle of the day with a little something from Denise’s book should be enough to bring him home for lunch every day and definitely straight home after work.

Check out our review of Denise Brienne’s  “The Ultimate Guide to Talking Dirty” or go to “The Ultimate Guide to Talking Dirty” Homepage and find out what we found so mind blowing. I’m telling you…absolutely killer stuff here ladies that will have him eating out of your hand.