Are you thinking that kissing really isn’t all that important?

Well, just because nobody has ever complained about your kissing doesn’t mean that you’re very good at it. Even if your partner or past partners have told you that they liked kissing you that doesn’t necessarily mean that you’re any good at it. Many times actually, a partner might say that they like kissing you hoping to build your confidence and maybe get you to focus on the fact that you really aren’t that great of a kisser.

The fact remains that kissing is an often overlooked skill that most of us don’t give much thought to. Good enough is usually good enough is the mantra of the day when it comes to kissing. But did you know that lackluster kissing often means less affection and less intimacy in a relationship. So if intimacy is important to you in your relationship or future relationship then listen up.

The first kiss is often the first real test of a relationship. After you have been dating or getting to know someone and everything looks good there will come a moment when you and your partner will find yourself face to face with that first kiss hanging there in the air. You have passed on every other test and now comes the exam that will tell them if there is a future in store for you or if you will become just another friend. So don’t blow it!

For that first kiss and also sometimes when you are already in a relationship, allow the tension and pressure to build. As you stand face to face only inches from each other with that same thought in both of your minds, allow the moment to linger. By doing so you will be heightening the anticipation leading up to that kiss just like you would any wonderful gift. By almost teasing or flirting with the promise of that kiss it will seem even sweeter. So don’t just go diving into that first kiss. Allow the moment to linger.

Also, as a relationship develops kissing should still remain an important part of your relationship. Too many times couples find that there is no passion between them any longer and they feel like an old married couple. If this is you then let me ask you if the two of you still spend time kissing. Do you still set aside time to make out or to kiss your partner in the same way that you did when you were first together? Are you still conscious about what turns your partner on when it comes to kissing and are you still in tune with them when it comes to this skill? If not then this could be a reason why your relationship is suffering.

Remember that first kiss and how sweet it was. Give that moment back to your partner from time to time. Banish the days of a simple peck or kiss to say hello or goodbye and try to make more of your kisses memorable. Just like food, some people like it hot and some not so take your partner into consideration when you kiss them. Maybe your partner likes spicy food every once in a while so maybe likewise every once in a while your partner would like it if you just grabbed them and took their breath away with a deep passionate kiss as you’re leaving for work. Or maybe they would like a flirty, teasing kiss as you whisper something sweet but inches from their face as you stare deeply into their eyes with your foreheads together. It can also be said that just like food nobody like bland, tasteless food and nobody like poor, flat kisses that mean nothing.

It really is amazing that the simple act of pressing your lips against another human being’s lips can lead to such an overwhelming feeling and such passion. When done correctly it can cause someone to devote their life to you and when done poorly it can firmly place you in the friend-zone for life with the excuse being that they just don’t feel that way about you. Work on improving your kissing skills and you will find that you will have a more passionate and loving relationship and a happier partner that values and cherishes you for many reasons including how well you kiss!

To learn how to improve your kissing technique we recommend Michelle Penney’s Kissing 101. Find out all the ways that you can become a better kisser and increase the intimacy in your relationship. After all, there isn’t one of us that wouldn’t like to have a partner with better kissing skills and this includes your partner!

Good Luck!

What could be so complicated about kissing that someone could possibly do it wrong, you might be asking.

Even if your partner is crazy in love with you that doesn’t make you skilled at kissing. Even if they absolutely love everything about you and never wish to be apart from you for even a moment out of the day that doesn’t mean that they enjoy kissing you. As a matter of fact, if you kissing skills are subpar or even poor it could ruin what might be an otherwise wonderful relationship. After all, without intimacy all you have is a deep fondness and possibly a person who never wishes to be stuck with a partner that doesn’t know how to kiss.

This may sound far fetched but the fact is that women judge you on your kissing ability. If you are a good kisser she will tell all of her friends, and this is one of the little secrets that they share after the first date. That’s right…after your first kiss there will be conversations that begin with whether you are a good kisser or not.

One of the Top Complaints Heard Amongst Women – Some women will try to overlook your inability to kiss well but in my research I have found that even those that stick with a man who lacks kissing skills, once the relationship ends that is one of the first things that they mention… that he didn’t even know how to kiss.

Complaints that I have heard about men who lack kissing skills include:

- All he did was open his mouth and stick his tongue out!

- He acted like he was kissing his grandmother

- He was always like he was trying to hit my tonsils!

- There was no tenderness; it was always like he was trying to swallow me whole!

- And the list goes on….

A Skill That She Will Never Forget – But for those men with kissing skills, you can guarantee that those women will never forget you. They will remember where you were, what was said, the music that was playing in the background and exactly what you did before, during and after a memorable kiss. For those men, when a relationship goes south her girlfriend will react with, “awwww…and he was such a great kisser too!”

What Can You Do? – Chances are if you are wondering if you are a good kisser then you could use some help. Actually, kissing is an area where everyone could learn a thing or two. So what can you do to improve your kissing skills?

Learn To Follow Her Lead – Allow her to tell you how she wants to be kissed. No, don’t ask her! I am saying that you need to let her take the lead a little bit. Get a feel for if she wants to be kissed gently and slowly…feel the pressure and the passion build between you. Listen to her breathing and let that tell you if you’re doing something right or wrong. Her fingers in your hair are always a good sign and are also a good thing for you to do with your hands from time to time.

Vary Your Pressure – Vary the intensity, the time it takes as you move closely to one another and the length of your kisses. Make a mental note or simply feel what is working and what isn’t. Yes, sometimes she is going to want to be swept up in a passionate kiss in a moment…and other times she is going to want to be “teased” or seduced into that kiss.

Watch Movies – This may sound corny but watch some chick flicks. Take note of how the hero kisses his girl. Typically, women watch these movies and identify with the female in the movie and this is typically how women want to be kissed. Take notes! Hollywood directors wouldn’t script movies with kissing just the way you will see if for any other reason other than this is how women want to be kissed.

Follow some of these tips and do your homework and you might very well become the type of man that can make a woman melt with but one simple kiss. Just your willingness to improve your kissing technique should be admired and in the long run improving your kissing technique will make for a happier love life for you and yours.

To learn more about how to improve your kissing technique and learn how to kiss we recommend Michelle Penney’s Kissing 101. Find out everything that you ever wanted to know about kissing from an expert in the field.