If you feel hopeless

Your History – You and your ex have a history. Yes, right now he may be spending time with someone else but that does not erase what you and your ex had together. The time that you spent together was real and the love that you shared was genuine. If he denies it he is only trying to cover up his feelings, which is a good sign in reality. Love really never goes away and the bond that you shared will always be there just waiting to be cultivated when the time is right. When will the time be right? Well, that’s entirely up to you. It’s just a matter of when you want to drop the hammer and get him back.

She Is The Rebound – Whoever he is with or any woman that he might be with in the future will only be the rebound relationship. Statistically rebound relationships don’t last very long or wok out as planned. If this other woman is the reason for your breakup the chances of the two of them staying together are even smaller. Once the novelty of the relationship wears off and the excitement that comes from sneaking around is gone he will probably wonder what he saw in her in the first place.

Is He Using Her – Could he be using her as a crutch after the two of you broke up? Often men don’t want to be alone after a breakup and the attention from another woman can fill that void left after he pushed you out of his life. Loneliness and solitude can be depressing and the company of someone that finds him attractive could be a big boost to his ego right now. Of course, once he starts feeling better there is a very good chance that he will want to be alone to mourn the end of your relationship and she will be gone.

Did She Steal Him – Many times women are attracted to men who are taken already. This is why married men are a target for so many women. If you were with him then there must be something desirable about him and he must be worth having, right? Often the anticipation and chase can be more of a thrill than the actual relationship for many women. Once she has him and spends some time with him the thrill will be gone and she will break his heart.

As you can see, there isn’t much to worry about if your ex has found someone new or if another woman has stolen your man from you. Rebound relationships have dismal success rates and often end as quickly as they began. Factor in the fact that you won you man’s heart once before and you can see that your chances of winning him back are pretty good. Of course, you should keep all of this information to yourself. Telling him that it will never last might just make him angrier and he might just stay with her out of spite. Now is the time for you to come up with a plan to get him back and begin mapping out the course that you will take to win him back. Sitting back just waiting for them to break up and for him to come back to you might seem like a good idea but I am sure that you want to be proactive in your approach to getting your ex back.

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Your confidence is key to getting your ex back.

Any plan that you might come up with or any advice that you might take will be successful or unsuccessful depending upon how confident you are in your ability to get your ex back. If there is any doubt in your mind about whether or not you will get him back then you should wait before making a move. If there is a lingering thought in your head over whether or not you have the ability to make your ex fall in love with you again then you still have some more work to do on yourself. This could mean that you need to sit down and logically think over the reasons why you will be successful or figure out what is bothering you about your relationship.

Logic can be an effective way to convince your mind and heart that you will one day be in his arms again. How can you use logic to convince yourself that he will come back to you? Spend some time thinking of all the reasons why your ex loves you. Think about all the times that he told you that he loved you and all the romantic moments that you spent together. If need be, make a list of the loving words he said to you and the reasons why you were meant to be together. Take this list for instance:

- In the beginning it was him that pursued you. When you first started dating maybe he was the one that wanted you so badly and chased after you. He was the one that made the first move and you loved that. Won’t it be great when he starts doing that again?
- What about all the times that he told you that he loved you. That kind of stuff doesn’t go away. It may be buried under some anger or misunderstandings but it is still there just waiting to blossom again.
- Think about the plans that you had for your future and the common goals that you shared. Those dreams are still there in his heart waiting to be uncovered.
- Look at how he broke up with you and search for meaning in his parting words. Was he angry? Was he distant? These emotions are meant to cover up the love that he still holds for you. It is your job to bring that out in him again.

Your list could include more details such as instances that you remember that point to the fact that your ex really loved you and still does love you. Soon you will see that there are more positives than negatives if you are thinking confidently. All of this isn’t going to be easy and it can be difficult to build confidence in light of a breakup but it is necessary if you ever hope to get him back again. Any plan that you choose to follow…whatever path you decide to take to win him back will be dependant upon your confidence in yourself and your ability to execute that plan. Work on your confidence and when it comes time to move forward do so with confidence, passion and with all your heart and you stand a better chance of getting him back.

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I know that you have probably thought of everything

Men are funny like that. Usually, when a guy makes up his mind that he is going to break up with someone there is no amount of talking or logic that is going to convince him that it might be a good idea to get back together. Actually, talking and trying to rationalize with a guy over a breakup is probably the worst thing that you can try to do to get him back. He is probably being stubborn (go figure!) and trying to talk to him about getting back together is only going to drive him away and destroy your chances of getting him back again.

Chances are you’re pretty emotional now also, so even though you love your ex very much it might be difficult to come off as charming, funny and sexy. Right now your state might be better described as emotional, needy and clingy if you ran into him. And if you started crying and telling him that you loved him then forget about it. Even if he did wind up feeling sorry for you and decided to give your relationship another chance it would be out of pity and he would hold all the card and all the power in the relationship, This isn’t the way to get back together and typically the way that this scenario plays out is in him leaving again in a few days to weeks which will make him even more resistant to the thought of getting back together.

So, what are you going to do? How can you actually get him back? Is it at all possible to win him back? I will tell you that it is possible. Absolutely possible to get him back. Couples get back together every day all over the world. In addition, you know this guy pretty well, right? You love him and there’s no doubt that he loved you at one point. Yes, right now he’s kind of ticked off and he is probably not talking to you. But that is fine! Really it is! This is normal so don’t sweat it. The point is that you are trying to get into a relationship with someone that you already know has an attraction to you. Yes, you’ve had some tough times but there is a connection there. It is far easier to get him back than it is to find another guy and try to start a relationship with someone that you don’t really know. This should make sense to you. Does it?

Ok, the first order of business should be to get yourself together so there are going to be some ground rules. These rules are only for a short period of time and are only necessary for the future of your relationship. Right now you are extremely emotional and everything has sort of been turned upside down. What might seem right to you is actually wrong. What might seem wrong to you is actually what is right and best for your relationship.

The most important rule is that you can’t contact him. No emailing him, calling him, texting him, stopping by his house or place of work and no hanging out in places where you think he might be. During this time of separation you’re going to pull yourself together and we’re going to come up with a plan to get him back. No, we’re not going to be mean and act out the lyrics to some popular country music tune that glorifies random violence upon men by scorned women. (Did you laugh there?) What we’re going to do is make him wonder a bit and get you back to being you because this isn’t the woman that he fell in love with, right? We’re going to let the dust settle a bit and make him miss you a little bit.

At first he might be so happy to be alone, especially if there was a lot of drama going on when you were together. After a while though the anger fades and he will begin to soften. All of this will set the stage for you actually getting him back. Just like most things in life, timing is everything and right now the combination of him not wanting to talk with you and you wanting to talk with him so much… well, it’s just not a good combination and I hope you can see now that it won’t lead you anywhere near getting him back.

Give it some time and try to enjoy the peace and quite a little bit. Try to laugh every day and maybe even do a little retail therapy if you can. The time will be coming when you will have your plan to get him back all set and the moment will be right to make him remember who you are and who he is to you. Some day very soon that connection between the two of you will be restored and you will have your boyfriend back in your loving arms again.

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If your goal is to get your ex back your first step should be to do as much damage control as possible.

So what exactly are we talking about when we refer to damage control? In short, the best thing that you can do to limit the amount of damage to your relationship and thus shorten the amount of time it will take to get your ex back is to remove yourself from the situation. Emotions are probably running high and misunderstandings can and will happen. Anything that you do at this point will be twisted and your motives will be suspect.

Calling, texting, emailing, showing up at your ex’s place or work are definitely things that you should avoid at all costs just after the breakup. Any attempt to talk your ex out of breaking up with you will be met with resistance so all efforts to do so are not worth the effort. All you will be doing is annoying your ex and making yourself appear needy and making your ex feel powerful and justified in breaking up with you.

Instead, allow some time to pass and allow your ex to come to you if they want to talk. If they do contact you concerning picking up any belongings be polite and friendly but keep your conversation short and to the point. Work out the exchange of any belongings that they might want but avoid talking about the breakup and don’t give in and tell them that you miss them or love them.

Avoid talking with mutual friends about the breakup. Any emotional plea on your part concerning getting back together will make it’s way back to your ex and you will again appear needy and weak. If conversation does lead to the breakup with friends or family politely refuse to talk about it saying that you value their friendship and that you don’t want to place your friends in the middle of this situation.

By doing almost nothing and keeping your emotions in check during the initial breakup period you will avoid doing any more damage than has already been done. It is going to be difficult because your instinct will be telling you that you need to try to fix this. You are going to want to tell your ex that you love them and miss them. Resist this urge. They know that you miss them and love them still… and if they don’t know sooner or later they will come around wondering what happened. After all, do you think that you are the only one that is going to be lonely after this breakup? Your ex is going to become lonely too. Give them the space and time to miss you.

While you are going through this initial breakup period and attempting to do as little damage as possible to your shattered relationship with your partner you should be coming up with a plan for how you’re going to get them back. Begin to think of what the most effective manner might be to bring them back to you. After all, just sitting and waiting might not be the most effective tactic to take. Although you can’t force someone to come back to you it is possible to move them emotionally to continue on with the relationship. Getting your ex back isn’t the problem. The problem typically is overcoming the damage that you might inadvertently do while trying to fix things just after the breakup.

As you can see, the key factor in getting your ex back quickly is to try to do as little damage as possible after the breakup happens. By doing so you will slice a significant amount of time off of the period of separation that you will experience from your ex and you will no doubt get your ex back more quickly.

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But here you are reading this so there is little doubt that you do still love and care about your partner. You love them with all your heart and you are feeling as if you have literally lost a piece of your own body. Chances are they were your best friend in the whole wide world at one point and a probably a daily part of your existence. But now they are missing from your life. It is only logical that you should want that love restored and that piece of your heart back… for good. And as strange as this is going to sound, your happiness is going to be a key factor in bringing your ex back and winning their heart again.

You might be saying that you simply can’t be happy right now with everything that has happened. You might be telling yourself that you can only be truly happy once your relationship is restored. This may seem harsh but this type of thinking isn’t going to help you one bit. If your ex does happen to “check in on you” and they see you in this state it will only help to confirm in their mind that they probably made the right choice in leaving. After all, and you should pause and really think about this, who wants to be around someone that is sad and depressed?

Someone that is upbeat, jovial, full of joy, happy, funny, positive and fun to be around will always be more attractive than someone that is sad or depressed. So, for your own good, when the time comes that you bump into your ex again or when they call you on the phone, which face do you want them to see? Do you want them to see the sad, depressed version of you or the happy person that they fell in love with initially? You want to be happy and positive, right? Ok, so why don’t we get to work and get you there and quick!

You Can Fake It Until You Make It – This is a very old saying that you have probably heard many times over but its advice holds true. Until you can truly be happy inside in every way you should work diligently at being happy on the outside. Lie to yourself if you have to. Tell yourself silently and not so silently to anyone that asks you that you’re doing great and that today is going to be a great day. Telling yourself so makes it so. The future holds great things for you and this is a promise, and honestly, your chances of getting your ex back are a lot better than you might believe at this moment right now. Get in the habit of smiling again, joking around again and having fun. Joke with your friends and coworkers and get back to being that fun person that everyone has missed so much. You will be surprised by how many people actually “welcome you back” and say that they are glad that you’re “back” to being the person that they love.

You Can Put A Positive Spin On This – This is a neat little trick that is used by politicians and lawyers alike and you can use in yourself in any and every aspect of your life from here on out. It is a technique that is not only effective but also quite easy to make a habit out of once you learn the secret. No matter how horrible the circumstances may seem in your mind at the moment it is very easy to put a positive spin on things once you get into the groove. Think carefully about what positive things might come out of this breakup and how everything might actually turn out even better than it was before in the end.

Once a little time has passed there is little doubt that your ex will come to realize that you really weren’t that terrible. Once you get back together they will come to appreciate you more and treat you even better than they did before you broke up. So, if it wasn’t for the breakup the two of you might have gone through life taking each other for granted and they might never know how truly wonderful you are. Don’t you think that your ex might be missing you at times too? Think about it…

Try to put a positive spin on all of this and you will soon see that if nothing else each and every day is one day closer to the day when you hold your ex in your loving arms once again.

What Makes You Happy – Every day you should be doing little things that will make you happy and cause you to smile and laugh, even if you don’t want to. Watch some funny movies that will make you laugh and use the long known and accepted healing benefits of laughter to heal your broken heart. Get up off the couch and go out and visit a local comedy club. Most of these clubs have a very low cover charge so you won’t bust the bank will enjoying the benefits of getting out of the house and being entertained in an extremely positive way that will make you forget about the breakup and be happy at the same time.

Now, some say that money can’t buy happiness but it can buy you a gift that will bring some happiness to your life if even for a short period of time. There is no doubt that shopping can make you feel better about yourself and buying yourself a present is a great way to reward yourself for changing things around and taking this positive step towards healing your broken heart. You are actually building the foundation upon which your new relationship with your ex will stand the test of time.

Take this advice… test it out and allow it into your heart… work on becoming a happier and more positive person again and you will stand a better chance of winning your ex back. With a little time spent reflecting upon the aspects of your life that we have touched upon here you will find that your life in general will be easier to live until that day comes when you and your partner are together again…. And that day will come! Just remember, a happy, fun loving, positive person is more loveable than someone who is sad all the time.

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The difference between success and failure…

Each day may seem like an eternity and every morning waking up knowing that your ex is your “ex” can feel like torture. Trying to go about your life can be a struggle but what you are in store for may be a marathon and not a sprint. This is why patience plays such a key role in winning back the heart of your partner.

Just like any wonderful thing in life, waiting for everything to work out may require a tremendous amount of patience. The finish line may be just over the next hill or it may be several miles away. By patiently waiting and working your plan every day you will find that before you know it the day will be here when your ex is back in your life and in retrospect, you will find that the wait wasn’t really all that long. So, how can you practice patience in dealing with the deafening silence coming from your ex?

Daydream – Allow yourself to daydream a little bit every day. Imagine what it will be like when you are together again. Where will you go and what will you do? In what ways do you want things to be different? Can you think of things that you wished you had done together that once you have the opportunity you will do? Will you spend more time making up than arguing? Will you let go of little grudges that you held onto? Let your mind wander and allow yourself to daydream a little bit every day about how things will be once he does come back to you and you are together again.

Keeping a positive attitude about the future of your relationship can have an extremely helpful effect upon not only your own happiness but also the actual events that will eventually bring you back together. There are people who believe this wholeheartedly and use “The Power of Attraction” and Manifestation to bring anything that they desire into their lives. Why wouldn’t it work with love and with your relationship?

Wrap Your Present – You are a gift, my dear! Not too long ago your ex told you and showed you how much he loved you. You were his gift and someone very precious to him. There will come a day when he will want his gift back again. Why not spruce up that gift and make sure that it looks splendid when that day finally does come? Don’t you want to look and BE even more wonderful than he remembered the next time he sees you?

Spend some time caring for yourself; pampering yourself and caring for that special someone that he used to adore… and will adore again. Maybe you want to make some changes in your life? Perhaps a new hair style or some new clothes might be in order? Maybe you have been saying that you want to start working out or take a yoga class?

Enjoy this time alone and take advantage of it to really focus on what you want your life to be like with your partner. Care for yourself and treat yourself like the precious gift that you really are. Patiently wait for your time in the sun again and before you know it that day will be here.

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Although you might think that you will never have the opportunity to use such loving pet names with your ex ever again there is a very good chance that there will come a day very soon, if you play your cards right, when you will talk with your ex either over the phone or in person. Slipping “babe” or “hun” into your conversation will have a powerful psychological effect on your ex and can be a very effective tool to break down the wall that they have put up.

Everybody has a weakness to pet names and they are useful in many different areas of your life if you know how to use them effectively. At work they can be helpful in creating a bond between coworkers, if used carefully, that can build morale and cause a coworker to go above and beyond what might normally be expected. In a loving relationship using pet names is usually an important milestone and signifies a special intimacy in both partner’s lives. Everybody likes to feel special and pet names make the listener feel unique and liked… and we like people who like us. If we are special to someone that person tends to become special to us. This is out nature.

So, how can you use the familiar pet names to your benefit to get your ex back? First, there are a couple of ways that you shouldn’t use pet names so you don’t appear to be manipulative. “Over the top” pet names like “sugar lips” or “handsome” or “beautiful” should be kept in your back pocket until a later date. Attempts to use these pet names that are unique to your relationship should be avoided until you are just about back together. These do have their place and are the pet names that your ex eventually will be begging to hear when you are successful in breaking down your ex’s defenses.

The kind of pet names that you will be using are such words as “hun”, “honey”, “baby”, “babe” or if you had a nickname that you used for them, like “Kenny” or “Ken” or “Susie” for “Susan”. These pet names can be slipped into a conversation almost unnoticed and if confronted you can always either deny using them or say that it was just an old habit that’s going to be hard to break. You will want to work them into your conversation so you’re ex will be a little off guard as they are listening and comprehending what you are saying as that little arrow is shot straight into their heart. An example of this would be, “You wouldn’t believe it, Susie! I ran into Deb the other day at the grocery store and she was so huge I thought she was pregnant! Hun, you really have to call her and find out for me if she’s pregnant for me. I still don’t know. Just don’t tell her that I thought she was pregnant… please?”

The key to using pet names effectively is to slip them into your conversation so they will almost go unnoticed. Sometimes a person’s nickname can be used at the beginning of a sentence but typically you will want to use all pet names in the middle of a sentence or between two sentences. Everybody likes to hear their name, especially a nickname that is familiar and is used only by close friends and a pet name is just one step beyond that

Using pet names are a way to effectively recreate the familiarity and the connection that you and your ex shared. Their use may not immediately bring your ex running back to you but they are a small tool that you can use to break down the wall that your ex has built. Pet names are just one of many psychological tricks that you can use to help get your ex back but are, none the less, one of the more effective ones that you can use to remind your ex of happier times that you two shared together. No doubt, they will walk away from your conversation feeling something for you that they might not have felt in a while and hopefully they will want more of; Namely, the connection, intimacy and love that the two of you shared.

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If you are serious about your desire to get your boyfriend back

If you are calling, emailing, texting or even talking with your ex and he has not been the one to initiate contact you are killing any chance that you have of winning him back. If you are thinking that you can convince him to come back to you by talking through your issues or promising that things will be different or telling him that you love him you are only boosting his ego and making yourself appear weak and needy.

Let’s think about this… put yourself in his position. He has broken up with you. Perhaps he has even told you that he doesn’t love you any more. Yet you still keep on coming back for more abuse. That must make him feel pretty good. That must make him feel as if he is some sort of wonderful guy that a girl that he doesn’t even want is pursuing him. Stop giving him this power.

Perhaps you have even been in this position yourself. Have you ever had a guy that you had no interest in pursue you? How did that make you feel? I bet you felt pretty good about yourself. Your confidence level soared and you wondered what it was about you that drove this guy crazy. In addition, your pursuer appeared weak and just a little bit crazy which further cemented your opinion of him and make you sure that he wasn’t someone that you wished to be in a relationship with. Are you seeing this now? Do you understand now how easily it is for you to be your own worst enemy and why any attempt on your part to try to mend this relationship is only going to make things worse?

Your goal instead should be to draw your ex back towards you and make him the one to come back to you. No amount of talking, convincing, loving words or logic coming from you at this point in time is going to get him back. He has to be the one to come up with the idea that it would benefit him to resume a relationship with you. Can you do this? Absolutely!

The first step though should be to stop actively doing anything that might directly appear to be an attempt to get him back. This means no more phone calls, emails, text messages or being nice to him if you see him. Now is the time for you to heal and prepare yourself for when the opportunity to get back together presents itself. You will want him to remember what it was like to be with you when times were good and make him regret ever breaking up with you in the first place. This means that you need to get back to being the happy, funny, caring, loving, sexy woman that every guy dreams of being with.

How do you heal? How do you get back to being the woman that he fell in love with initially? This may be tough but, go shopping! Go out to a movie. Go hand out with some of your friends and do the things that make you smile and make you happy. As a general rule, if it makes you happy then that is what you should be doing right now. Let go of all limitations and do something that you have always wanted to do. Book yourself a 4 day cruise or go to a tropical resort for a long weekend. Treat yourself well. You are a gift and nobody is going to treat you special if you don’t treat yourself special first. You deserve to be treated well by yourself first and also the man of your dreams.

As you can see, it’s actually easy to go from being your own worst enemy to your own best friend after a breakup. By focusing on yourself and building yourself back up you can drastically improve how your ex views you and thus improve your chances of getting him back.

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