As a side note, you really don’t have a super model’s body or face to attract a man’s attention and dress a little flirty. Most women aren’t built like models and most guys won’t expect you to be perfect. It’s all in your attitude baby! A woman that feels that she looks sexy IS sexy and will appeal to even the hottest guys. Personally, I have heard guys checking out women who would never be described as model beautiful and say that they just didn’t know what it was about a particular girl but that she just had that special something that drove them crazy and made them want her. Self confidence and a positive attitude go a long way in turning a guy on and setting the stage for effective flirting.

Now, if you think that you have to come off like a hussy or dress like a tramp to flirt effectively or that you have to dumb yourself down to catch a guy’s attention you may be missing out on some of the more effective and subtle forms of flirting available to you as a woman. Yes, there are guys that like their women a little more trampy looking and sometimes dumb can be cute but both of these approaches normally grow tiresome for most guys. For example:

The Tramp – Sure strippers are hot and most guys will admit that they have often wondered what it would be like to date one but this look should be reserved for special occasions and only used rarely to turn a guy on. Instead, striking a balance where you accentuate your womanly figure while leaving a bit to the imagination can drive a man wild. Cleavage is great and most guys are drawn to it like a magnet but don’t overdo it. In the workplace it can often get you written up for inappropriate work attire but it still is possible to show off just a hint of your best feature without getting into trouble and without looking like a complete hussy.

Showing just a little bit of cleavage or a pair of pants that fit just right can accentuate these two areas while hiding other problem areas. Most guys have a bit of tunnel vision so that does help and it doesn’t take a whole lot to drive a man to distraction. A pair of heels can elongate your legs as well as change the way you walk a little bit to bring more focus to that great fitting pair of pants that look so good on you.

The Dumb Blonde – Even if you’re not blonde you can use this technique to get a guy’s attention and make him out to be your hero. Guys love to help out and this will give you the opening to do more flirting. Additionally, if he’s into you it will give him a chance to playfully pick on you if he’s into you. As a cautionary note, try not to overdo it too much because a ditz is cute at first but soon grows to be tiresome…but guys do like to play the game and a request for help is an open door for most guys to swoop in, play the hero and get their reward for saving the day. A cute ditzy voice is optional but it can also be very effective when trying to get a guy to help you. Why? I don’t know. I just know that it is and most guys respond to it very well. Shoot for ditzy though and not whiney…whiney is annoying to just about everyone across the board.

Naughty, Naughty – Being a little naughty can be fun and quite entertaining but try to keep it on the innocent side if you are at work. It really is possible to pull off effectively and it can literally leave a man speachless when done correctly. For instance, dropping a pen or pencil and bending over to pick it up might seem very innocent but the seduction and flirtatious part of all of it comes in how you bend over and what kind of view you give your intended flirtee. It isn’t the act of picking up the pen that is flirty it is what you say and how you do it that makes it flirting or a bit naughty. Eye contact as you bend over slowly is what takes this innocent act and turns it into a full blown flirt that will blow his mind.

As you can see, flirting can be very easy and fun without compromising yourself as a woman. The power of flirting is actually one of the most unique weapons that you have in your arsenal as a woman to attract any man that you desire or to keep the interest of the man that you already have. When done well, flirting is an art form that will keep any man captivated for as long as you will flirt with him. The tension and connection that you create when you flirt with a guy is something that can not be duplicated and no amount of physical beauty can match the power that a woman with superior flirting skills possesses.

For a really thorough guide to flirting we recommend Mimi Tanner’s The Secrets of Flirting With Men. Find out from the queen of flirting how it’s done and really become a pro at flirting.

Good Luck!