As a side note, you really don’t have a super model’s body or face to attract a man’s attention and dress a little flirty. Most women aren’t built like models and most guys won’t expect you to be perfect. It’s all in your attitude baby! A woman that feels that she looks sexy IS sexy and will appeal to even the hottest guys. Personally, I have heard guys checking out women who would never be described as model beautiful and say that they just didn’t know what it was about a particular girl but that she just had that special something that drove them crazy and made them want her. Self confidence and a positive attitude go a long way in turning a guy on and setting the stage for effective flirting.

Now, if you think that you have to come off like a hussy or dress like a tramp to flirt effectively or that you have to dumb yourself down to catch a guy’s attention you may be missing out on some of the more effective and subtle forms of flirting available to you as a woman. Yes, there are guys that like their women a little more trampy looking and sometimes dumb can be cute but both of these approaches normally grow tiresome for most guys. For example:

The Tramp – Sure strippers are hot and most guys will admit that they have often wondered what it would be like to date one but this look should be reserved for special occasions and only used rarely to turn a guy on. Instead, striking a balance where you accentuate your womanly figure while leaving a bit to the imagination can drive a man wild. Cleavage is great and most guys are drawn to it like a magnet but don’t overdo it. In the workplace it can often get you written up for inappropriate work attire but it still is possible to show off just a hint of your best feature without getting into trouble and without looking like a complete hussy.

Showing just a little bit of cleavage or a pair of pants that fit just right can accentuate these two areas while hiding other problem areas. Most guys have a bit of tunnel vision so that does help and it doesn’t take a whole lot to drive a man to distraction. A pair of heels can elongate your legs as well as change the way you walk a little bit to bring more focus to that great fitting pair of pants that look so good on you.

The Dumb Blonde – Even if you’re not blonde you can use this technique to get a guy’s attention and make him out to be your hero. Guys love to help out and this will give you the opening to do more flirting. Additionally, if he’s into you it will give him a chance to playfully pick on you if he’s into you. As a cautionary note, try not to overdo it too much because a ditz is cute at first but soon grows to be tiresome…but guys do like to play the game and a request for help is an open door for most guys to swoop in, play the hero and get their reward for saving the day. A cute ditzy voice is optional but it can also be very effective when trying to get a guy to help you. Why? I don’t know. I just know that it is and most guys respond to it very well. Shoot for ditzy though and not whiney…whiney is annoying to just about everyone across the board.

Naughty, Naughty – Being a little naughty can be fun and quite entertaining but try to keep it on the innocent side if you are at work. It really is possible to pull off effectively and it can literally leave a man speachless when done correctly. For instance, dropping a pen or pencil and bending over to pick it up might seem very innocent but the seduction and flirtatious part of all of it comes in how you bend over and what kind of view you give your intended flirtee. It isn’t the act of picking up the pen that is flirty it is what you say and how you do it that makes it flirting or a bit naughty. Eye contact as you bend over slowly is what takes this innocent act and turns it into a full blown flirt that will blow his mind.

As you can see, flirting can be very easy and fun without compromising yourself as a woman. The power of flirting is actually one of the most unique weapons that you have in your arsenal as a woman to attract any man that you desire or to keep the interest of the man that you already have. When done well, flirting is an art form that will keep any man captivated for as long as you will flirt with him. The tension and connection that you create when you flirt with a guy is something that can not be duplicated and no amount of physical beauty can match the power that a woman with superior flirting skills possesses.

For a really thorough guide to flirting we recommend Mimi Tanner’s The Secrets of Flirting With Men. Find out from the queen of flirting how it’s done and really become a pro at flirting.

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Sometimes overt flirting with a lot of touching and sexual innuendo can make a man forget what his name is but often situations won’t permit this kind of flirting, especially in a workplace setting. Even in public such flirting techniques as dirty dancing or flirting with physical contact simply isn’t appropriate or available as an option. In such cases it is going to take a more subtle kind of flirting to get your message across and start the wheels in your man’s mind turning. The great thing about this kind of flirting is that once you master it you will be able to pull it off anywhere, at any time in front of anybody and you will get the same response out of a man as you would if you were whispering nasty sweet nothings in his ear.

The Eyes – Spend some time when you have a chance looking in the mirror and practicing using your eyes to flirt with. Often a sideways glance with your mouth just a little open and some hair in the way can create a stunning, stop-him-in-his-tracks look that is a combination of flirty and sultry at the same time with a good dash of sexuality thrown in for good measure. Find out what looks better for you. Could it be with your eyes wide open and a bit of a wry smile on your face or a dreamy bedroom eyes look with your eyes half shut? What effect does batting your eyelashes have? Do you look hotter when you are looking up or to the side?

Your Lips – Your lips can be a focal point for many guys and it doesn’t take a whole lot of red lipstick to get a guy’s attention. It is more what you do with your lips that should be your concern when you are flirting. Biting on the nail of your forefinger when you are indecisive can bring attention to your lips. Most of the time leaving your lips naturally parted just a little bit can send a message of sexual tension. Likewise, biting on your lower lip or licking your lips just a little bit can send a very flirty signal to a guy. Be careful not to overdo it and try to appear natural when using these techniques though. Guys that have a lot of experience might be wise to what you’re trying to do and guys who don’t have a whole lot of experience will sense that something is going on but they won’t be quite sure what it is. Subtlety is the key here when using these flirting techniques.

Touching – Any time you touch someone you create a connection with them. There really is something magical about the power of touch and many believe that in touching another human being there is actually transference or sharing of your personal power or life force. Either way, incidental touching can be a powerful way to flirting with a guy. Just a subtle touch on the arm, shoulder or back can cause a man that you are flirting with to feel a connection with you that is undeniable. If you aren’t brazen enough to touch him while you are flirting with him you can touch his shirt or jacket as you say that you like it or pretend to pick a piece of lint off of him. If you really want to go for the gold you can try touching his face or his hair saying that there is an eyelash on his cheek or a fuzzy in his hair. Running your fingers through his hair afterwards is optional but highly arousing.

Flirting can be one of the most powerful and exciting seduction techniques that you can use to attract a man. Every man will appreciate a little innocent flirting and you might even find that as your skills improve you will be attracting men that even the pretty girls can’t seem to crack. A flirtatious personality is one of the most desirable traits that any man will find attractive, even if he doesn’t know exactly why. That is the beautiful thing about some innocent flirting. It will make you appear more attractive to men and honestly they won’t exactly know why.

To learn how to flirt with men we recommend Mimi Tanner’s Secrets of Flirting With Men. Find out how you can hone your flirting skills and become the flirt that you always dreamed of. Men will love you for it!

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