Do you think that you’re too shy

Smile – Everyone looks more attractive when they smile. Not that big cheesy smile that looks and feels fake. Smile that contented smile that comes across your face when you think of happy thoughts or something pleasant. If you have difficulty pulling it off try thinking of walking on the beach or how you feel when you eat a really tasty piece of cheesecake or any one of your other favorite desserts.

If you want to go with a little more flirty you can try a bit of a wry smile. This is the type of smile that you might use on a guy that says that you want to do all sorts of naughty things to him. It is a knowing smile with a seductive air to it. Either way, smiling at a guy should be the basis of all flirting and it says without a word that you find him attractive and that you like him. A smile means the same thing in every language worldwide so you don’t even have to worry if you don’t speak his language.

What to Say – If you are nervous about what to say the honest to goodness truth is that what you say means very little when you are flirting with a guy. Studies have shown that only a very small percentage of communication when you are flirting with a guy is verbal. Approximately 90 percent of all communication is non verbal and is done with your body.

Of course, you still have to say something, right? Studies have also shown that a simple hello works well for beginners along with open ended questions that are non threatening. Something as simple and random as “what is your favorite kind of pizza” works just as well at breaking the ice as any cool line that you might read in any popular women’s magazine.

The Eyes – Definitely look him in the eye when you are talking to him but be careful not to stare. Look him in the eye, hold for a bit and then glance down… and then look him in the eye again. Looking away can send a message of disinterest or preoccupation, such as looking for another guy or one of your girlfriends. Your focus should be on him and by looking away you can make him feel that you have already lost interest in him. By looking down you send a flirty message that says that you are into him without saying a word.

Keeping constant eye contact can be effective in intimate conversations and can create smoldering passion when you are discussing something really racy but in the beginning of a relationship it can just come off creepy. So save the intense eye contact for later.

Just remember that effective flirting is mostly what you do with your body. It is nonverbal cues that tell a story to a guy and let him know that you are interested him. Most guys are pretty oblivious so don’t be shy or worry that you’re coming on too strong. Chances are that unless you do come on a little strong he is never going to get the message. So once you smile that beautiful smile and initiate a conversation with some good eye contact it is time to turn up the heat. Let him know that he’s being flirted with instead of guessing whether you might have been sending him a message.

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As a side note, you really don’t have a super model’s body or face to attract a man’s attention and dress a little flirty. Most women aren’t built like models and most guys won’t expect you to be perfect. It’s all in your attitude baby! A woman that feels that she looks sexy IS sexy and will appeal to even the hottest guys. Personally, I have heard guys checking out women who would never be described as model beautiful and say that they just didn’t know what it was about a particular girl but that she just had that special something that drove them crazy and made them want her. Self confidence and a positive attitude go a long way in turning a guy on and setting the stage for effective flirting.

Now, if you think that you have to come off like a hussy or dress like a tramp to flirt effectively or that you have to dumb yourself down to catch a guy’s attention you may be missing out on some of the more effective and subtle forms of flirting available to you as a woman. Yes, there are guys that like their women a little more trampy looking and sometimes dumb can be cute but both of these approaches normally grow tiresome for most guys. For example:

The Tramp – Sure strippers are hot and most guys will admit that they have often wondered what it would be like to date one but this look should be reserved for special occasions and only used rarely to turn a guy on. Instead, striking a balance where you accentuate your womanly figure while leaving a bit to the imagination can drive a man wild. Cleavage is great and most guys are drawn to it like a magnet but don’t overdo it. In the workplace it can often get you written up for inappropriate work attire but it still is possible to show off just a hint of your best feature without getting into trouble and without looking like a complete hussy.

Showing just a little bit of cleavage or a pair of pants that fit just right can accentuate these two areas while hiding other problem areas. Most guys have a bit of tunnel vision so that does help and it doesn’t take a whole lot to drive a man to distraction. A pair of heels can elongate your legs as well as change the way you walk a little bit to bring more focus to that great fitting pair of pants that look so good on you.

The Dumb Blonde – Even if you’re not blonde you can use this technique to get a guy’s attention and make him out to be your hero. Guys love to help out and this will give you the opening to do more flirting. Additionally, if he’s into you it will give him a chance to playfully pick on you if he’s into you. As a cautionary note, try not to overdo it too much because a ditz is cute at first but soon grows to be tiresome…but guys do like to play the game and a request for help is an open door for most guys to swoop in, play the hero and get their reward for saving the day. A cute ditzy voice is optional but it can also be very effective when trying to get a guy to help you. Why? I don’t know. I just know that it is and most guys respond to it very well. Shoot for ditzy though and not whiney…whiney is annoying to just about everyone across the board.

Naughty, Naughty – Being a little naughty can be fun and quite entertaining but try to keep it on the innocent side if you are at work. It really is possible to pull off effectively and it can literally leave a man speachless when done correctly. For instance, dropping a pen or pencil and bending over to pick it up might seem very innocent but the seduction and flirtatious part of all of it comes in how you bend over and what kind of view you give your intended flirtee. It isn’t the act of picking up the pen that is flirty it is what you say and how you do it that makes it flirting or a bit naughty. Eye contact as you bend over slowly is what takes this innocent act and turns it into a full blown flirt that will blow his mind.

As you can see, flirting can be very easy and fun without compromising yourself as a woman. The power of flirting is actually one of the most unique weapons that you have in your arsenal as a woman to attract any man that you desire or to keep the interest of the man that you already have. When done well, flirting is an art form that will keep any man captivated for as long as you will flirt with him. The tension and connection that you create when you flirt with a guy is something that can not be duplicated and no amount of physical beauty can match the power that a woman with superior flirting skills possesses.

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The key to effective flirting can be summed up in one word and that word is subtlety. If you are too discreet with your flirting you run the risk of your intended flirtee missing your flirting altogether. On the other hand, if you overdo it and come off like a stripper you very well might have a sexual harassment lawsuit on your hands at best and a man that takes your flirting as you being easy at worst. You want to attract him but not at the expense of having to fend him off with a tazer, right?

Coy Glances – A coy glance out of the corner of your eye as your eyes meet can cause a man to feel that he is frozen in time. Just a little bit of a smile is all it takes as your eyes speak volumes about your desire for him. Without a word you can communicate the fact that you’re flirting with him with a coy look. If you have long hair this effect is made even more pronounced.

Whisper – Speak just a little more softly than you might in a normal conversation. The low level of your voice will cause him to have to move closer to you which is always a good thing. Whispering is also very seductive and sexy especially if you vary the cadence of you speech by hesitating almost nervously.

Smile – Everybody looks more attractive when they smile. A smile that brightens up your face when you see him will be noticed and will convey a very positive message. Allow your desire and happiness in seeing him to show through in your smile. To go from your normal every day happy half-smile to your full blown smile when you see him will let him know that he is someone special to you.

Head Tilt – By tilting your head ever so slightly and maybe even looking away just a little bit you will send a message that you are a little bit shy. Couple this with the coy smile or glance and you have a winning combination. Practice in a mirror every once in a while to really get your look down or try it out on a guy friend if there is one particular guy that you are trying to flirt with.

Laugh – Laugh at his jokes. Don’t over do it or appear fake but if at all possible laugh at his jokes or silly things he does. This will be a big boost to his ego and most of the time men like women who make them feel good about themselves. Of course, overdoing it and laughing too hard at a joke that really isn’t

Pick On Him – Picking on him just a little bit will create a bond and familiarity. If he is strong and secure he can handle it. If not and he acts offended you can always let him know that you were only joking and that you only pick on those people that you like. If he joins in or gives you more ammunition to use at a later date or begins picking on you a little bit in return you know that you have accomplished your mission. Harmless picking is a very good way to create tension.

Touch – A simple touch creates a connection and familiarity like nothing else. Touch him on the arm or shoulder as you’re talking. If you are flirting with someone that you are familiar with a simple touch when you are within close proximity can be a very effective way to create that connection that you desire.

As was stated formerly, subtlety and balance are key in effective flirting. Too little and chances are he won’t know you’re flirting with him…be too forward and you come off as a hussy or as being easy and likewise send the wrong impression. When done correctly there is nothing more exciting, exhilarating and fun than some innocent and heart warming flirting. Test out your flirting skills today and see.

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Overall, there is no doubt that flirting in general can be a powerful and almost necessary part of building a loving relationship, but so often as familiarity becomes a part of the same relationship flirting is forgotten. So, in addition to the value of this information as a dating tool it shouldn’t be forgotten as a relationship progresses, even into marriage. As it is often said, for a man in a relationship it’s all about how a woman makes him feel that will determine his level of interest and devotion.

In her course Ms. Tanner claims to be able to teach women the exciting and fun art of feminine flirting no matter what your age is and how to use flirting techniques not only with the man in your life but also with men you are interested in. Her techniques will show you how to create attraction and thus build a connection with any man you desire whether that be a boyfriend or husband, a boss or coworker or even that cute guy that you’ve had your eye on for a while that you keep wishing will ask you out.

In Secrets of Flirting With Men you will learn the all important flirting skills that are said to allow you to get the reaction that you are hoping for from any man you want while appearing quite innocent but while still sending him seductive messages. Mimi Tanner claims to have broken flirting down into some simple to use formulas that you can use and practice on any man available as you perfect your flirting skills. She further says that she will teach you how to create flirting techniques that will be unique to each man and flirts to his particular needs and thus keep your man loving and devoted.

Overall, feedback for this book was very positive and we can see the value that women might find in this information. Our only concern was with one aspect where these flirting techniques or formulas are touted as being so powerful that they can cause men to fight over a woman. As wonderful and flattering as that might seem we were a bit shocked that such information might be used to pit one man against another in a romantic setting or otherwise.

Other than the caution to use these skills carefully and while taking men’s feelings into consideration we feel that the information in Mimi Tanner’s course holds great value for both women and the men that love them. After all, men love to be flirted with probably more than women love to flirt with them!

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