After a breakup it may be tempting to want to shower your ex with attention and to want to reaffirm your commitment with to him and your relationship by reminding him of how much you love him as you work toward getting him back. This desire might be overwhelming at times but if you sincerely wish to get him back you should resist this urge and instead look at things from another perspective.
Try instead to look at the situation from his perspective. Think of how you would feel if you broke up with a guy and he continually professed his love for you or tried to remind you of all the good times you had. No doubt you would be able to remember the good times and the attention, although flattering, would make him appear weak and needy. You don’t want to appear weak and needy, do you? This is a silly question but this is how you will appear to him if you tell him that you love him still.
You may feel that by showing your devotion to him and your relationship in spite of all that has happened that he will think that you must love him very much. Actually the opposite is true. This tactic will only drive him further away and perhaps even ruin any chance that you do have of getting him back. But all hope should not be lost!
You can be sure that once the smoke clears and he has had some time to actually begin to miss you his thoughts will turn to tender moments that you two shared. It will be in quiet times spent alone that he will remember what it was like to be loved by you… how things once were between the two of you. Chances are that right now his focus is upon the breakup, the mean and hateful words that you two have exchanged and his resolve is focused upon building a wall between the two of you.
Given time, though, parts of that wall will begin to crumble. He will grow tired of being alone and all the bad memories will begin to fade and the pleasant, loving ones will come to the foreground. He will dream of you and think of you and start to wonder where you are, what you’re doing, what you’re thinking and feeling. This is human nature and the psychology behind the saying that time heals all wounds.
Although you may feel that your ex will forget how much you love him or think that you no longer desire him, this shouldn’t be your focus at this point in time. Your focus should be on creating attraction again with your ex and drawing him to you… making him be the one to say those precious three words again all on his own.
Make a promise to yourself that you won’t tell him that you love him until he says it first. Stick to this promise and you will be surprised how much more quickly that day comes and how sweet it will be to have your self respect intact by knowing that you weren’t the one to say it first.
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Good Luck!